I know many women love to get flowers and chocolates for Valentine’s day but I’m not one of them. There was a time that chocolates were something I really loved to get to satisfy my sweet tooth. Now that my tastes have changed by getting off sugar, eating traditional chocolates aren’t as tasty as before. Most commercial chocolates taste fake and I would rather not waste the opportunity for a dessert on something that will not nourish me nor satisfy my sweet taste buds.
I prefer to make something special for my husband and myself so that we can enjoy the day together. We normally cook together anyway but on a special day, he usually takes the initiative and cooks a special dinner for us. For me, I’d much rather have the gift from the heart than the gift from the store. I think this type of gift creates a closer bond between partners.
Many families have children at home who want to participate in a special day like Valentine’s. I loved getting all the paper hearts and handmade cards from my children when they were home. I would encourage you to make them part of any special meal planning. Of course, they need to know that as the parents you need your special time too. But it’s a good opportunity to show off different cooking skills that you might not use on a regular basis. If you don’t plan on cooking a special meal or the grown ups are going out to eat, remember that the children can always use a special treat. They are a direct reflection of the love that is shared between you and your partner. Whether you have a blended family, an adoptive family or any combination of people coming together to make a family, the bond is the love that you share.
While there are some who will spend Valentine’s Day without someone to share it with, I say take the opportunity to show yourself some self-care. Treat yourself to a massage. Make yourself a special meal and have enough left over to enjoy for a few more days. Even if you don’t have that special someone, seek out a friend or anyone who may not have a partner to share the day. Make this day about loving yourself for who you are and not what you could be. We need to love ourselves before we can love another person. So many people feel that being alone on a “couple’s day” makes them sad. I say turn the concept on its head and make it all about pampering you.
I wish everyone the spirit of the Valentine’s Day – sharing love and gifts from the heart. If you feel that you need someone to share your feelings about days like these and need to find a way to develop your self-love and comfort, I am here to help you through the process. Contact me or sign up for private coaching where I will devote that time together with you to help you achieve your goals.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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